me and my g/f LDR 2300 miles appart I HATE IT. I LOV HER

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DaveB21

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(11/12/03 22:26:46)

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well Im just occuping my time by ranting bec. I miss her so damn much again, I will start off how we met, she on a different forum asked me some questions through a private message pretaining fitness, and I am a personal trainer... I gave her my AIM handle after 4 weeks I became her personal trainer (free) simply because i was so interested in her, now I live in Detroit MI, and she lived at the time in San Dimas CA, now Chino CA. (same distance) :duh

. we have a lot in common and a lot not in common, but the most perfect relationship ever, im 20, shes 23. we are both into fitness and health, and are just extremely in love right now, I first went to meet her by booking us a vacation in san dieago La Jolla section in a very nice hotel for a week, it was the first time I was to meet her in person after about 3 months of knowing her from phone/internet. I was extremely nervous, she drove about 4 hours to SD to the airport to pick me up, when we finally met an hugged she was shocked that I was soaking wet from sweating to death, which i blamed on the plane ride lol. anyway we had an instant connection we kissed in the airport parking lot before I was ground even 5 minutes, and from then on in-seperable until the inevitable came alone my plane ticket back home :mad2

needless to say after getting back to detroit it was extremely horrible how bad we both wanted to be together again and touch, I couldnt take it so I spent all my $ again on another trip this time las vegas for a week, which was a pretty recent trip oct 23-28th. this was also Mr. Olympia weekend, so biggest bodybuilding event in the world perfect for the 2 of us... the worst part about this trip was the wait, 12 weeks! 3 months, man i cannot do that again. around week 10 we almost gave up hope atleast she did I had to remind her constantly until the trip that im real and she will find out soon. she almost backed out of going, but I talked her into giving us another chance before giving up this pre-paid trip that cost me thousands. once she landed I was already thier, she said ok im here basically at to meet her at our hotel lobby, she didnt sound so excited, but as soon as we looked at each other agian for the first time 3 months I felt an overwhelming feeling go through me and i could see it in her eyes so did she, we hugged and she dropped her bags and wouldnt not let go for the longest time, it felt so good again, and I knew everythign would be fine after that first 1 minute.. I was right the trip was amazing, not just bec we were on vacation bec we were seeing each other infact both times seeing her 75% of our time was in the hotel room, but everything and anything else we did we had so much fun, now I want to marry her with no doubts in my mind, and I work 7 days a week 10am-11pm to save to move out thier in california with her, Im not so blunt about it with her i hint and so does she, talking about kids and marrige and our house "one day soon". anyway its barley been 2 weeks since we seperated for the 2nd time but man this is so hard, I have been in many relationships some very serious my previous one I was engaged... and nothing, nothing at all even comes close to my current one in any aspect... I am convinced we our soulmates, and since I have met her Its almost impossible to be happy w/o her, and I cannot go longer then 12 hours w/o hearing her voice, now I may seem like an obsessive nut, but this is very mutual if anything she is worse.

I just want to know ANYTHING you guys can tell me for tips, on keeping me sane while not with her, im not depend on a girl to make me happy or didnt think I was, but I just am so incomplete with out her and she feels the same, also what are any creative ways of letting her know I love her, or am thinking about her, or miss her, I have covered just about everything and am starting to get repetitive not because I feel the need to tell her, bec i cannot even keep it inside..

here is a picutere of the both of us during Vegas pretty recent.. to put name to face:

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I wish I had more pictures of us as a couple, but we seemed too busy with ourselfs to even rember taking any pics untilt he last moments both times, so here are some indvidual pics of us, thanks guys for any comments or tips on what you think im asking about

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Tango71

Re: me and my g/f LDR 2300 miles appart I HATE IT. I LOV HER

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(11/13/03 05:36:59)

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Hi there DaveB21, :hi

Welcome to the forum! Thanks for sharing your story and photo album with us! Roses and I enjoyed looking at your photo album. You and Gretch are a lovely couple!

Well, I think the first thing you have to concentrate on is to cut down on expenses and finding an avenue for more cash flow. First thing you have to do is make a goal and plan when you want to move to CA. Maybe you can give yourself 6 month to 1 year. Before moving. This will take a lot of sacrifice from both of you. BUt your wishes of being together will be much of a reality when you two can make a goal together and stick with it. Besides once you have this goal in mind you will be working towards it will help you from going crazy but looking forward to that planned date when you two will be together.

Here are a few tips that you can use for saving money:

1. Cut down on phone calls: This is quiet difficult I know but it would not be long becuase you are working on a goal in moving within 6 months - 1 year.
a. Buy phone cards to cut down on phone bills
b. Use Yahoo or msn messnager to text her mobile phone
c. Download Skype, which alllows you to make free phone calls all over the world using your PC
d. Compare prices. There are many other avenues avaliable on the net where you can communicate with one another that will acutally save you a few dollars. It maybe only a couple of dollars but if you add up all your expenses on phone calls thoses dollars can go along way.

Here are a few links that you can try:

- www.dialpad.com/
- web.net2phone.com/home_usen.asp

2. Try to find things that you can do without for about 6 months.
a. avoid going to the mall it makes you a complusive shopper.
b. try avoiding going out on restaurants.
c. try to find others things that you can cut down on to save a few bucks.

3. Making money
a. Sell some stuff your not using on ebay to get extra cash.
b. Advertise your services as a personal trainer online by making a simple website or make fliers on your PC and place it places where people will see it.

Just make sure to involve Gretch on your plans. Make an actual plan of your goals. For ex. where you will be living when you get there. Maybe you two can do some research on the web to find more info of places and other important info that you need once you get there. If I have other ideas to help you out I'll post it here. For now my brain is a little rusted. Hope to see more of you here!

:cheers2

Just me,

dLaY

Re: me and my g/f LDR 2300 miles appart I HATE IT. I LOV HER

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(11/13/03 09:09:27)

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hello daveb21.. :wel5

BTW nice picture and nice couple.

Good advice tango... this free phone call that is so cool.. maybe I will try it for myself and see how it works..thanks.

rosedollar

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(11/13/03 13:45:14)

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Welcome to Windows of Love Dave!

Wow! Tango has pretty sure summed it up for you! :cool2

I guess one of the really big challenges is on the financial side for an LDR couple. Good for you that you don't really live that far from each other, unlike some couples who really are living across continents! :flykiss

Your love story is inspiring and my hopes are high that you'll make it! We've been there, Tango and I, also dlaY and her partner echo , and a lot many others who have survived LDR and have moved together! We are more than willing to help you get all the support you need to help you get through this phase in your relationship. :hand2

I say phase, because like all other relationships, it elevates on into levels. Gretchen and yourself have come a long way! Congratulations! Don't lose hope and always FOCUS ON YOUR GOAL TOGETHER!

Work towards it! Don't think of it in big leaps instead TAKE BABY STEPS!! Do it a little at a time.. but in sure steady steps! Tango has given you good tips, PLAN YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER. It won't happen overnight. :h5

Meanwhile, keep assuring and reassuring each other of your love through COMMUNICATION, whether in Email, phone calls, texts, snail mails, chats etc. You can occasionally send flowers or small token of gifts that need not be expensive. :chat2

You seem to be fond of picture taking, we totaly enjoyed browsing through the pics in your album. Thank you for sharing them! So you may want to contineously exchange pictures and keep her updated on what's going on with you. :type

LDR is not easy and it takes a strong heart and will to survive. But i tell you, it is worth the wait and the reward of happiness and companionship together with the one you love more than make up for the times apart. :luv

My very best wishes! Do come back and hope you can invite her here. We'd love to have you both in the forum! :smile3

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