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I have been dating my boyfriend, Matt for over 2 years now. I have been in previous serious relationships before, but he had never kissed anyone before me. He has never been in any other relationship. Well, last year, as senior year was almost over, and we were preparing for college, I decided to talk to him about what should happen if he needed to see what it is like to date. I have feelings for him that I have never had for anyone else, and I can not picture my life without him. I told Matt that if he ever wanted to see what other girls are like, then he could, and I would wait for him, as long as he told me anytime he thought it might happen or when it did. Well, so far he hasn't done anything with anyone. Or so I thought. Recently, he started wanting to do things with other girls, physically. So I said okay. He started talking to some girls that he knew from high school, whom are friends with one another. One of them he really sincerely LIKES, and I fear losing him to her all the time. The other girl, he was just after 'a good time'. Well, one day he was talking to the girl that he truly likes and she all of a sudden asks him if he kissed the other girl. I was there when this happened, and he said no and changed the subject. I never susupected anything and then I got to thinking about it. Later I asked him to swear that he hadn't kissed that girl. and he told me that he had. in JUNE. and he hadnt told me. So i was upset. And then he started talking about how he was afraid that being in a relationship with me might make him miss 'the one', and that he is only 18 (so am I), and stuff like that. I never saw this coming. As far as I'd known, he'd never lied to me, but suddenly it was if everything I thought our relationship was about was not true . anyway, a day passed, and I kind of avoided him so that I could think. Then we talked and he said that he only wanted girls physically, not a relationship. I am totally understanding about him wanting to experience, but i don't understand why he would say the things about finding 'the one' and not mean it. What do you think? Can you help me out here? I don't really know what to do, and I don't want to lose him.
I have been dating my boyfriend, Matt for over 2 years now. I have been in previous serious relationships before, but he had never kissed anyone before me. He has never been in any other relationship. Well, last year, as senior year was almost over, and we were preparing for college, I decided to talk to him about what should happen if he needed to see what it is like to date. I have feelings for him that I have never had for anyone else, and I can not picture my life without him. I told Matt that if he ever wanted to see what other girls are like, then he could, and I would wait for him, as long as he told me anytime he thought it might happen or when it did. Well, so far he hasn't done anything with anyone. Or so I thought. Recently, he started wanting to do things with other girls, physically. So I said okay. He started talking to some girls that he knew from high school, whom are friends with one another. One of them he really sincerely LIKES, and I fear losing him to her all the time. The other girl, he was just after 'a good time'. Well, one day he was talking to the girl that he truly likes and she all of a sudden asks him if he kissed the other girl. I was there when this happened, and he said no and changed the subject. I never susupected anything and then I got to thinking about it. Later I asked him to swear that he hadn't kissed that girl. and he told me that he had. in JUNE. and he hadnt told me. So i was upset. And then he started talking about how he was afraid that being in a relationship with me might make him miss 'the one', and that he is only 18 (so am I), and stuff like that. I never saw this coming. As far as I'd known, he'd never lied to me, but suddenly it was if everything I thought our relationship was about was not true . anyway, a day passed, and I kind of avoided him so that I could think. Then we talked and he said that he only wanted girls physically, not a relationship. I am totally understanding about him wanting to experience, but i don't understand why he would say the things about finding 'the one' and not mean it. What do you think? Can you help me out here? I don't really know what to do, and I don't want to lose him.
Welcome to the board! I am sorry for being hard on you but I think that you have already lost him since you allowed him to check out other girls. By doing so you have allowed him to share an experience that the two of you should have shared first. Well, this is how I understood it by your post.
This relationship is full of crap! Get out of it! Unless you wanna be in some threesome or foursome swinger type of a relationship, this isn't for you gurl. And Tango is right, you don't want to lose him?? Well doll, wake up! You already did! And the saddest part of it ??? .. is that you don't know it yet!! 
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