Hello everyone!
First off I must say that I have a lot of respect for people who are in ldrs for years. My bf has been in Thailand and India for two months now and it feels like years.
I am crushed because he chose to stay in India for one more month. He is going just for vacation. He wanted me to go (I'm in Seattle WA) but I couldn't afford it. He was supposed to return on June 18. Now he'll return on July 18. I could hardly sleep last night just mourning him. It is really hard for me to believe him now when he says that he misses me, because he is the one who extended his vacation without me. He says that he can't wait to get back but I just don't think that's true. We also have a couple of serious issues that we can't really resolve long distance. I actually just broke up with him because I couldn't take his being gone that long in addition to our issues. He fought to get me back so I gave in. I do love him and he has many positive qualities but it's breaking my heart that he decided to extend his trip. I think it is a selfish thing for him to do. I think that he loves himself and that he should date himself and not anyone else! Because he comes first to him. I had a previous ldr and the man wasn't selfish at all. He cared a lot about my needs. My bf talks about marrying me in the future but I don't want to marry someone who is so selfish! He has the means to fly back whenever he wants to. My last bf was in grad school and was really struggling financially but he still flew to see me at least once per month and I helped him with part of the cost. I think that my current bf is spoiled. He is now in the southern part of India and what hurts me the most is that until now we at least e-mailed each other almost every day. He only called me about once per week usually which also hurt, but at least there was e-mail. Now he is going off into the mountains for over 2 weeks and there is/will be no phone or e-mail contact for that entire time. I feel like I just never want to e-mail him again and never pick up the phone when he calls. To have a bf who is there for me is really important to me. I can't even call him or mail him anything because his trip is spontaneous and he changes locations frequently. The whole trip is based on his moods. No joke. Do you think this is a man who is ready to get married? I don't. I feel really angry and resentful at him and I think I just need to move on. I don't want to be the angry gf, I'd rather be alone.
First off I must say that I have a lot of respect for people who are in ldrs for years. My bf has been in Thailand and India for two months now and it feels like years.
I am crushed because he chose to stay in India for one more month. He is going just for vacation. He wanted me to go (I'm in Seattle WA) but I couldn't afford it. He was supposed to return on June 18. Now he'll return on July 18. I could hardly sleep last night just mourning him. It is really hard for me to believe him now when he says that he misses me, because he is the one who extended his vacation without me. He says that he can't wait to get back but I just don't think that's true. We also have a couple of serious issues that we can't really resolve long distance. I actually just broke up with him because I couldn't take his being gone that long in addition to our issues. He fought to get me back so I gave in. I do love him and he has many positive qualities but it's breaking my heart that he decided to extend his trip. I think it is a selfish thing for him to do. I think that he loves himself and that he should date himself and not anyone else! Because he comes first to him. I had a previous ldr and the man wasn't selfish at all. He cared a lot about my needs. My bf talks about marrying me in the future but I don't want to marry someone who is so selfish! He has the means to fly back whenever he wants to. My last bf was in grad school and was really struggling financially but he still flew to see me at least once per month and I helped him with part of the cost. I think that my current bf is spoiled. He is now in the southern part of India and what hurts me the most is that until now we at least e-mailed each other almost every day. He only called me about once per week usually which also hurt, but at least there was e-mail. Now he is going off into the mountains for over 2 weeks and there is/will be no phone or e-mail contact for that entire time. I feel like I just never want to e-mail him again and never pick up the phone when he calls. To have a bf who is there for me is really important to me. I can't even call him or mail him anything because his trip is spontaneous and he changes locations frequently. The whole trip is based on his moods. No joke. Do you think this is a man who is ready to get married? I don't. I feel really angry and resentful at him and I think I just need to move on. I don't want to be the angry gf, I'd rather be alone.
